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How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

08.06.2025 03:48

How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

By taking turns talking.

By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.

By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”

Why am I so tired of seeing homeless people all over the place?

By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.

By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.

By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”

What would have happened if Shin was a good movie instead of a bad one?

By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.

By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.